Being humble is a very Canadian trait, whether a stereotype or not, that is one thing that defines us as a Canadian but be clear on what it means to be humble. I am humble when I say I am not a good drummer, that others are much better than I am when I know in my heart that I am a great drummer. This is being humble, modest, but it is also self-depreciating to a point of self-deprivation. Let’s change the narrative.
I also have trouble blowing my own horn feeling that doing so is very un-Canadian and it is what I dislike about Americans (even though deep down I admire and envy their ability to flaunt their ego so well). How can I find balance and remain humble while being true to myself? It’s an approach that aligns with Sir Isaac Newton’s “If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants“. Take this comment as an example:
I am an awesome drummer, but I still have so much to learn from my mentors like Neil Peart, John Bonham, and Ed Thigpen and from you (assuming the person I am chatting with also has some interest in drumming or music). Who are your influences and why do they stand out?
Show interest by shifting the conversation from gloating on my self-acclaimed greatness to the other. Practice humbleness without sacrificing any pride in what you have achieved or can contribute in your area of expertise.
As toastmasters has a “Word of the Day” where the speaker gets bonus marks for incorporating the word into their impromptu speaking, you can also incorporate this practice into your conversations for the benefits of everyone, but most importantly yourself.
Happy holidays to all!
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